I’m not really sure why good things end. Sometimes I think its because it’s important for us to feel loss. Maybe it’s important for us to understand hurt, so that we can better understand happiness. I saw one of those e-cards today that said something like: ‘everything happens for a reason, but sometimes things happen because you’re stupid and make bad decisions’. This made me laugh.
I bring this idea up now, not because I agree or because I think what that e-card said is true, but because it brings up a thought, that we use sayings like this as excuses and justifications for our actions and decisions in this life. How easy it is to make poor choices, having stapled to the front of our consciences that ‘you only live once’. And maybe we do. Maybe we only get this one life, this one chance. I’d hate for us to look back years from now in regret, having wasted so much time in the darkness, being hurt or angry or sad or lonely, when all the possibilities of a life full of fulfillment and light are just a few steps ahead if we push through. “Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside… hatred is a curved blade and the harm we do to others we also do to ourselves.”
Maybe good things end so that even better things can begin. I know that sometimes in those endings we’re jumping hurdle after hurdle after hurdle, and life is hard. Sometimes in those endings life is harder then ever. And all we have then, all we have when life is at devastating lows, are our choices and our reactions. Those belong to us and nobody else. We can’t ever own or control anything but ourselves; our own thoughts, our own actions and reactions. There will always be an element of surprise. But know that it’s what makes stories so good later. Think of all the insight and wisdom you’ve obtained over the course of your life because of the moments you didn’t know how to get through, the moments you didn’t think you could, but somehow you did. You are strong; you are so special and so valuable. Always remember your worth.
Maybe everything doesn’t happen for a reason. Maybe things just happen. But we can either waste those moments, trying to forget them, or we can learn from them.
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
‘Sometimes life is like reading a book. Days, weeks, even years just repeat themselves, until you turn the page. Letting go isn’t giving up. It’s understanding that the best is yet to come.”